James Argent’s ex breaks silence as she says ‘I’ve been quiet long enough’

James Argent’s ex Nicoline Artursson has broken her silence after the former Only Way Is Essex star admitted to domestic violence. He admitted his crime and received a six-month suspended prison sentence and a two-year restraining order

James Argent’s ex Nicoline Artursson has spoken (Image: real_arg/Instagram)

James Argent’s ex Nicoline Artursson has broken her silence after her former boyfriend admitted to domestic violence. The former Only Way Is Essex star admitted his crime at a court in Spain earlier this month where he received a six-month suspended prison sentence and a two-year restraining order.

Argent pushed his now ex-girlfriend down a flight of stairs, causing the injuries, earlier reports revealed. Following the shocking incident, Argent made a return to the stage by the end of the week to perform – as he earns a living from singing.

Nicoline is a model and former Miss Sweden. Her and Arg met outside a supermarket in Marbella and quickly fell in love. James recalled, in an interview with OK! magazine, that he thought Nicoline was beautiful the moment he saw her. “She was just in her gym clothes, wearing no make-up”, he had said at the time.

“She’d actually just fed a stray cat. We both smiled and kind of giggled at each other. And Nicoline carried on walking. Then I thought, ‘What have I got to lose?’ So I turned around and said, ‘Hey.'” The pair went on to date and had spoken of wanting a family together one day, with Nicoline saying that’s what she loves the most about him – how family oriented he was.

Nicoline has not spoken out about the incident between her and Argent until now. She took to social media to share her thoughts on what had happened in a lengthy and emotional post, which was titled ‘All that glitters, where is the gold?’

James and Nicoline have been dating for almost a year after meeting outside a supermarket in Marbella (Image:

real_arg/Instagram)
Writing in the lengthy post on social media, she shared: “It’s now been a month. I still can’t believe it. My fractures on my body have finally healed but I’m wounded inside. I’ve been quiet long enough. Silence protects no one – and it almost destroyed me.

“What started as a love story sadly turned into something else. Behind the pictures, promises and the plans for a life together – the beautiful days – changed into something into sadness with emotional manipulation and eventually physical harm.”

Nicoline did not name a specific ex of Arg’s but she said Arg had “unresolved ties to his past”. She had said that there were “too many people in our relationship” – her, Arg and his ex – and accused the unnamed ex and her family of “targeted emotional distress”.

She added: “I loved deeply, believed in our future and stood by someone I thought would protect me and instead I was left alone and harmed in ways I never imagined. I was not only failed by him but deeply affected by the presence of unresolved ties to his past.

“Yes I posted an Instagram story with a simple yes or no question about if your ex should be a part of your present relationship. I felt there were too many people in our relationship: me, my boyfriend and his ex. ‘Three’s a crowd’, they say. I asked so many times if we could be just the two of us, but the answer was a strong NO … Everybody knows that real friends support you and want to see you happy. So I posted a story on Instagram.”

She later added that Arg had told her he would “put a stop” to what had been going on for months. She added in the lengthy statement: “After being together for one year my boyfriend finally promised me that he would have boundaries. He would put a stop to all that had been going on for months. But he didn’t.

James returned to the stage days later
“Instead he broke the promise … The rest is history. I was brutally thrown out of our new home in the middle of the night wearing only my pyjamas. I opened the door to let him in and only minutes after I found myself laying down on the stairs outside our house. My clothes and belongings were being thrown out from the balcony down on me. I was injured.”

Nicoline then went on to thank her neighbours for their help. She said: “Thanks to incredible neighbours who heard and saw what happened and acted, I got help. They called police, brought me to safety and ensured the incident was taken seriously.”

She concluded her post with: “A gentleman does not abuse you and end up in jail and call you the love of his life. A gentleman does not blame you for his actions. A gentleman will confide in his partner, family and close circle of friends, keeping them close and safe. A gentleman chooses you always and leaves the past in the past – including exes.

“Life is to be lived together and not to please people who want to take advantage of you. At the end of the day, fame can only do so much – it’s all about being strong and growing together. Life is simply not a reality TV show, life is real. I have tried to understand why. I have cried so many tears thinking about the way he chose to hurt me. He said he loved me and I believed him and here we are.”

James with ex Nicoline (Image:

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She added: “There is now a legal record of what happened. Violence has no excuse – no matter how much love preceded it. To those who questioned me for staying as long as I did: I stayed because I believed in love. I believed he and we could grow, could heal, could choose peace. But love doesn’t survive in chaos. And it cannot survive where violence lives.

“To every woman reading this: if you’ve ever questioned your worth, your safety or your sanity in a relationship – this is your sign. You deserved to be loved with care and integrity. And you are not alone. To the men: real strength is protection. Real love is safe. Be the kind of man who lifts women up – not one who breaks them down, neither by violence or silence.

“To the future: never say never. I will get the little family I’ve always dreamed of and have my dream wedding to symbolise and celebrate true love in front of my dear family and friends.”

She wrote: “I’m healing now. Slowly, bravely and unapologetically. I will rise and I will use my voice – not for vengeance but for truth. For every woman who’s been silenced by someone who said ‘I love you’ and then proved otherwise. This is not just my story. It’s a reminder: abuse – whether emotional, psychological or physical – has no place in love.”